If a person is correct and has the facts right why do they find it necessary to yell and call names in dialog about the subject?
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It is a symptom of an inferiority complex Marijo. Very similar to boasting and arrogance. It is an subconscious attempt to appear superior.
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Probably because they aren't really sure their facts are correct. Otherwise they wouldn't feel the need to bluster and bully. Insecurity/uncertainly breed fear and anger. Fear and anger breed bullying and abusive behaviors.
Some topics are just too tightly tied to certain emotions for them to be spoken about in a quietly rational manner. Often the person yelling doesn't even realize that an emotional button has been pushed.
Also, when we feel very strongly about an issue, we often want other people to know just how strongly we feel about it. Raising the voice substitutes for effective vocabulary. And consider this, when in the grip of a strong emotion, it is sometimes difficult to communicate effectively with words. Volume to the rescue. :)
But calling names in the process is totally unacceptable to my way of thinking and indicates a need to lash out at the listener. Name calling would seem to me to mean that the person feels threatened in some way. I've always said that it's not my job to manage other people's emotions, but in cases like the above, I do try to make it clear that I am not threatening the person in any way. This is sometimes very difficult if my opinion differs greatly from theirs. :) I almost never forgo honesty. I'm just "mean" that way. :)
"Raising the voice substitutes for effective vocabulary" Good point Dianne- so does peppering ones speech with curse words-their need is obvious- learn more words.....
If a husband is all alone in the woods, arguing, and there's no one around to hear him, is he still wrong?
I challenge you to write an article or two about your wife - I think it is high time we get to know the brave and wonderful woman who lives under your roof....GRIN
Oh yeah, he's still wrong! LOL!
When you talk to yourself, which we all do, and must, do you ever find yourself wrong? I would think so....
I have arguments with myself, and I still lose.....
(a) They want to be heard because they are insecure and (b) because the are control freaks
» Answer from Andrew Uwaifo Answer given 195 days 4 hours ago.yes they are not sure if is true but on the order hand they have to think on there self first because they dont trust them self
Insanity.
People who yell and call names in dialog, are yellers and name callers in person- I would deal with them in the same manner I do on that level-
Total Answers: 9, Total Page Views: 535.People yell when they are out of control. Maturity may be falling by the way side, if it isn't already a thing of the past. Children learn by example, and their examples over the last 20 to 50 years are television and movies. Anyone wanting to be heard and/or make a point is yelling. Loud means right to those unschooled in the social arts. This could also be attributed to hearing loss. In the last 30 years, volume on everything has increased -- video games, at the movies, diesel engines, boom cars. Perhaps yelling is the new norm. The name calling? Just fall out from lack of home discipline or advanced education in etiquette. Their bad manners make the rest of us, who know the difference, that much nicer.
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