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Asked by Shelley Brzak 251 days 4 hours ago.

If you really luv someone do you care what they look like?



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do each their own

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» Answer from Kellie Hastings Answer given 251 days ago.
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We love someone from the heart and it's the heart in someone we fall in love with.

The heart is our soul, our very being so no, the physical does not play a role in true

love. All the physical does is physically attract someone who's interests begins with

sexuality not love.

Great question

» Comment from Shelley Brzak Comment made 250 days 21 hours ago.
thats very nice kellie but love is not one paticular thing phermones play a big part in it all and it's therefore physical appearnce intelligence humor wit kindness have a resounding influence this is why when we luv we are supposed to have no control over it all true love is deaf dumb and blind to the outside negative factors

» Answer from Dianne Lehmann Answer given 250 days 6 hours ago.
I think that in the beginning we are attracted to someone for their looks. If we have enough in common and spend time together, we get to know the person "on the inside." This will either lead to love or not.

When it does lead to love, I think a person's appearance becomes secondary to shared history, similar beliefs and abiding affection. When I look at the love of my life, I don't just see Bernd's physical being, I see all that we've shared and all that he is. I have no idea how other people perceive his outward form, but I find it beautiful.

» Comment from Shelley Brzak Comment made 223 days 3 hours ago.
I always look to see if at least their hygene is up to snuff so somewhat physical appearance is part of it you wouldn't pick a bum offf the street!

» Answer from Suzi Gravenstuk Answer given 250 days 5 hours ago.
Yes. If you love a person you can get cues to their physical and mental health by observing what they look like and if anything has changed.

» Comment from Shelley Brzak Comment made 223 days 2 hours ago.
what about love at first sight what would be the cues there!?

» Answer from The Old Gray Mare Answer given 249 days 18 hours ago.
I am attracted first by appearance. That does not mean I'm looking for Clark Gable. However, I have a preference in physical appearance that has always influenced me somewhat. Having said this, I can tell you I've picked a few and what good did it do me? Nix - So who am I kidding. I can't pick 'em anyway. My track record, as you guys will see if I keep writing, was always a good try.

» Comment from Shelley Brzak Comment made 223 days 2 hours ago.
so if you are chatting on say one of the chat lines and you are talking to someone you are interested in and they have no pic how would you know un less you met them or their profile pic is a cat in a tree!

» Comment from The Old Gray Mare Comment made 221 days 21 hours ago.
I guess you'll never know what a person really looks like if you're on the computer. You have to meet them. In that case, discretion and caution is the rule. As for me, there are some folks on WS that would be fun to meet to talk and get to know them because they sound interesting. But I'm not inclined to think of getting together to become romantically involved like some people you hear about. I'm way to practical, cautious and fussy.

» Answer from elle kynzer Answer given 248 days 22 hours ago.
"Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" is referring to real love, and it comes from the soul.

We may say that looks do not matter, but actually men are attracted to the physical, whereas, women are attracted to romance. A person can be attractive through taking care of themselves. Many would deny that, but has been studied before.

We do love people, not because of looks . Those who are beautiful on the inside, it will burst forth to others. Ideally the answer would be no, but we are not all perfect in our attractions.

» Comment from Shelley Brzak Comment made 223 days 2 hours ago.
I did not get as much response on the chat lines until I put up some pics of myself so it was an experiment of which I wrote an article about here on search warp

» Answer from Octavia Hansen Answer given 246 days 4 hours ago.
Looks are like the icing on a cake -- when the cake is already good, it makes it better. If it's nasty inside, icing doesn't help. Same way with people. Looks give an indication of caring and concern, a respect for themselves and others, but you have to consider it part of the whole package. Marilyn Monroe said it in "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes": A woman being pretty is like a man with money. It's not everything but it sure helps!"

» Comment from Shelley Brzak Comment made 223 days 2 hours ago.
intelligence is a turn on not only what I see!

» Answer from Tharuna Devchand Answer given 241 days 13 hours ago.
I think Shakespeare said it best:

In faith, I do not love thee with mine eyes,

For they in thee a thousand errors note;

But 'tis my heart that loves what they despise,

Who in despite of view is pleased to dote;

Nor are mine ears with thy tongue's tune delighted,

Nor tender feeling, to base touches prone,

Nor taste, nor smell, desire to be invited

To any sensual feast with thee alone:

But my five wits nor my five senses can

Dissuade one foolish heart from serving thee,

Who leaves unsway'd the likeness of a man,

Thy proud hearts slave and vassal wretch to be:

» Comment from Shelley Brzak Comment made 223 days 2 hours ago.
shakespeare liked both men and women

» Answer from Kathy Somers Answer given 220 days 23 hours ago.
Actually, you know that if you are attracted to someone who is like Totally handsome, they could turn out to be the biggest jerk. And if you meet someone who doesn't have the ideal looks that your looking for, and you get to know that person, and you notice that they are really nice, funny and kind, it makes them more attactive on the outside and their inner beauty shows though them. So I would say NO, it all depends on their inner beauty that a person falls in love with...for true Love, but if you want the Barbie and Ken relationship just cause of looks I don't think that relationship would last as long as Loving someone for who they are, not what they look like.

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