What do YOU think is the proper, most effective way to handle bullying?
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Bullying is very common.
Some think the person being bullied should tell a figure of authority.
Some think they should fight back.
Some think they should turn the other "cheek".
What do you think?
Answers to this question:The answer depends on your security. If you are stronger, and have friends that help your strength, then you should tell the cops or what ever government/control agency you can. If you do not have that kind of support, maybe turn the other cheak. If you really are stronger, a final option is obvious, but reporting this is the strongest thing you can do.
Times have certainly changed. In days gone by a school would have one schoolyard bully and that was it, now bullying is running rampant in our schools and applies to both boys and girls.
What a bully wants, more than anything else, is attention. The worst thing a person could do would be fight back. Ignoring the bully, at the time, may seem to be the thing to do, with follow-up with a person of authority. Turning the other cheek seems as if it would be fruitless, unless you want to spend the rest of your life being harassed.
Most schools have a no tolerance policy when it comes to bullying, but they can’t do anything about it, unless they know about it, so it’s very important that students tell someone at the school.
The bigger problem here is the “why” of all this. Why are our youngsters becoming more aggressive and what can we do, as a society, to get these children back on the right path. Obviously we’re doing something wrong, otherwise this wouldn’t be happening.
Thanks for the interesting question.
Pat Johnson
I'd vote for ignoring the bully, but that isn't always possible. Generally, if the bully gets nothing for their efforts, there is no reason to persist. That's assuming, of course, that the bully is rational. It's not always the case.
I don't think there is any one right way to handle a bully, because there are so many different kinds of bullying. Each case must be looked at individually and a solution reached that will benefit both parties.
I also think that in the case of bullying that "fighting fire with fire" is not always effective. I can still hear my mom telling me not to "stoop to their level." Made it tough sometimes, but it also provoked me to look for more reasonable and rational solutions.
In any case, I don't think that "turning the other cheek" is a good solution. You have to be pro-active in order to curtail bullying ... even if it means walking away from a job you love as I had to do. And I personally believe that you should never let anyone be cruel to you. You demean yourself and that's not good. You should at least speak out to the bully. Although, in my experience that doesn't always end the bullying.
It's a mess really, when you think about it. I don't think there is any good solution for ending bullying. Though ... raising all kids well with a good sense of self worth and esteem might go a long way toward ending bullying.
Bullies only pick on someone whom they are sure won't fight back; that's the a priori definition of a bully.
The only thing to do is to punch him in the nose, but good; he will surely move on elsewhere.
Hey Paul I'm all for the punch on the nose. Haven't got time for bullies. I never had this problem, but was there for those who did.
Some quickies.
1. walk away, if that does not work, try 2
2. Run away.
3. Find a large piece of lumber.
4. Marry a Kung Foo fighter (so far he, or she is not a bully).
5. Become temporarily insane. Insanity scares just about everyone away.
If all of that fails agree 100% with everything the bully is saying and doing, soon they will become bored and seek a new challenge.
There are no bullies but misunderstanding and finding yourself with one solution and the other person does not see that solution. In that case you want to use some kind of leverage (bullying). Leveraging "bullying" strategy to bring the other person in the picture is a strategy that is mostly used in organizations between the manager and the subordinate. In most cases the manager attends meetings, meets with people in the high echelon of the organisation. This makes the manager to have some knowledge that is delicate and in most cases in difficult to translate to colleagues (subordinate) who were not there on the scene of business activity. And because it is so difficult to such kind of information you end up with one strategy which is bullying. Which is not a bad strategy if after all is done you can call the person and laugh at it out over drinks. I have been bullied several times by my manager because I kept arguing about what needs to be done. So then she bullies and later discover that she was right.
The strategy of bullying is also used by parents who because they are matured know better and their teenager asking questions, you find the parent resorting to bullying - cajoling the teenager into the "right" path.
But nowadays this strategy like bubblegum has lost its taste, people are grappling with new innovative ways to relate and interact with people in the most equality manner in this era of equal rights.
I believe the most effective way, most proper way to deal with bullying depends on how well you trust the person bullying you. If you trust him/her then bullying is no longer bullying but like someone shouting to a friend who is on the road and does not see the incoming car, so you bully, you should "hey my good man get off the road.
Take out the enemy with a suplex and go on safari to Africa!!!!
Sydney I believe you can only beat a bully with a bully. What I mean is to give them a dose of their own medicine. The bullies I know dont give a damn about their parents or the law, but when the big brother or sister of the victim comes along they soon change their tune. I was brought up in some pretty rough areas and never had this problem myself, and my heart went out to those that did, and being a tough cookie I was first to help them that were bullied. I wasn't called the cock of the school for being the best at handling myself, but because of how I handled those that made a lot of peoples lives a misery.
Total Answers: 9, Total Page Views: 586.report it right away to the proper people whether it's at work home or playing! this way if it's caught in time there probably would be less damage down the line.
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