How important is SEX to you in a relationship or marriage?
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If you are a male or a female and you met the most perfect person ever, of the opposite sex, one that you waited your whole life for, you enjoy their company at the movies, out to dinner, taking walks, etc... but they have a very low sex drive, almost non-existent, or a physical problem that makes sex more of a burden then joy (a problem that cannot be corrected), would this make you leave the person for someone else ?
Answers to this question:Very. But to have it you need to have all the other stuff in the relationship working for you.
As Brianna said- sex is very important- it's one of the main reason two people live together- but good sex alone will not make a happy marriage- neither will the other things without good sex. I think one could do without some of the other things a lot easier than they could do without the sex though....
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As a young female, I thought marriage without sex made no sense at all, because I could do everything else myself, except children. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, career, finances, owning a home, and driving were all independent traits, that only needed a sexual partner, or so I thought in my immature mind.
As an older woman, who has a terrific husband, those ideas are so irrelevant. Marriage is about completion, companionship, and character. If you have trust and love, then you have all there is available. Sex is not a goal, it is a benefit that comes from years of sharing a life with someone whose idea of a great evening is holding your hand.
We are spoiled by television, and the sexual content of ads, movies and the perfect bodies. Sex sells products, but wrong concepts of marriage are being instilled in this generation. The actual sex act takes only a few minutes, so what do you do with the other 23 hours and 5o minutes?
It would be great to have a partner who loves sex, and is a wonderful friend, with great chef qualities. However, if I had to choose only one, it would be a wonderful friend, with whom I can share the funny things, a cup of coffee, and a walk in the park.
Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer!
(There has to be some more dignified way of expressing your love for another human being because
the human body is a sad marvel; it has its waste disposal immediately next to an amusement park.)
Having said all that, sex IS essential in a relationship, but a man who marries a woman just for sex is like a man who buys a 747 jet just for the bag of peanuts.....
There are other ways to get peanuts if that's what you really want....
But the peanuts you get on a 747 jet taste so much better than the ones you buy at the corner stop-n-go..........
But then you're left with the untoward ownership of a lumbering, grounded 747, which is NOT what you really wanted; you only really wanted the onboard peanuts..........
Stop and Shop is a perfect alternative.
The thing to do is- rack up a lot of frequent flyer miles.....
Total Answers: 5, Total Page Views: 1,315.To answer the second part of your question ... no, that would not make me leave that person for someone else.
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