What should a wife do when her husband's mistress calls her, and tells her everything?
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Talk to her husband immediately about it- try to arrange to get them both together with her, and find out the truth.
Above all, I think she can only believe 10% of the other woman's story.
First of all, I would not tolerate a husband that has a mistress! If a mistress called me, I would listen to obtain as much information as I could. To her I would act as if I knew all about her and what's your name, are you still in your same place, hesitate, hesitate - get her to give me as much information as I could get - and bid her good bye. Then it would be my husband's turn. Time for a sit down, fact gathering - is he admitting it, and all details I could get from him. If indeed he had a mistress, it would be divorce court from there! I would have done my homework and give all this information to the lawyer. Good bye Charlie!
I have never been in this situation so I can't say exactly what I would do. I would think I would probably confront my husband, and I can't say that I wouldn't be tremendously upset because I would. I don't think I could stay in a marriage like that so I would probably say the best thing to do is leave. I know it would be hard but the trust would be destroyed as well as the wife.
If you truly believe you can work through it and if both parties are willing to work through it then by all means do. But if not, that's up to you and your choice should be respected. File for divorce.
Don't believe it until it's confirmed by her husband. If it's confirmed, decide whether he's worth keeping or throw him to the curb. Sometimes people make mistakes but if he shows no remorse or continues to cheat, he's not worth her time and although painful, she'd be better off without him.
First, she should make certain this is really true. Then she should find out why he felt he needed a mistress. I'm not saying that the wife is necessarily at fault for his philandering. But there is usually a reason. That reason will most likely form the basis for the decision to either keep him or not.
There is much more that can be said about this situation, but it would take a lot of time. I'll try to be brief. Just know that my husband cheated on me once and there were extenuating circumstances. I loved him so much that the thought of losing him was worse than the work of moving past the affair. He loved me dearly but was very confused at the time. I was very sick and not all that available to meet his emotional and physical needs. And he had just started medication for his bipolar disorder.
We've been together for over 40 years and married for over 35 and love each other more today than I can describe. Sometimes working through a difficulty together can cement a relationship. Equally though, sometimes it can rip it apart.
My advice to the wife would be to assess her commitment to her husband, assess his commitment to her and then decide if the love is stronger than the disappointment and anger.
Ascertain from one's husband if it's just been sex or whether he truly loves this lover- mistress; that's essential.
Then, be sure to inform the mistress that it's ' fine and ok with you'.
Psychiatrists have long well known that when a mistress finds out that the wife knows and tacitly approves, that the mistress relationship evaporates very quickly; there is a secret unconscious desire in almost all mistress' heart to attack her own mother, the "wife-mother' image, by the very inherent sneakiness.
When she knows that the wife knows and 'approves' that motive cannot be satisfied and the extramarital relationship withers and dies on the vine...........
» Answer from Anne Erasmus Answer given 1 year 180 days ago.While I do agree that the husband should be approached to establish the truth, I'm afraid I'd be listening while I packed his suitcase. There are no extenuating cisrcumstances - only lame excuses - and I wouldn't stand for them for a minute. I'm afraid I don't agree with the best answer's solution either - killing the mistress doesn't solve the problem of a husband who strays - maybe taking them both out would be better :) I don't believe in second chances - a case of once bitten, twice shy!
Total Answers: 9, Total Page Views: 1,840.(1) First pray for her sorry soul that she repents and understands that she will be cursed by God, according to His commandment of not committing adultery, and because she is coming between a man and his wife and that is a No No Mark chapter 10, please read. What God put together, let NO MAN or WOMAN put asunder.
(2) Then pray for the husband because he will reap what he sowed. Hebrews 13/4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
(3) Then pray for yourself because you will need to forgive them both and take the high road in the knowledge that it could have happened to you in a weak moment. Ask God to help you not to take vengence, because vengence belongs to God and He will watch over His Word to perform it to perfection. Pray that he nor you is infested with veneral dis-eases. Pray that he will seek the help from God that he needs along with you.
Finally, do nothing until you hear from God. This woman might be lying to you to get you distressed and to break up your marriage. It happens every day. Satan sends. God dispels. You choose what you want to hear and what you want to do about it.
Please remember time heals ALL wounds. Everythign new gets OLD. Many who left has lived to regret. Peace is the greatest gift, please give it to yourself. If this is not about you, then please pass it on.
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