Four Signs Of A Cheating Girlfriend
Posted: Wednesday, March 28, 2007
By Mark De Smit
Hey guys, so my girlfriend and i have been dating for a year now,We met threw other friends she basicly put her self out to be miss.innocent virgin girl but likes to still drink a bit or do drugs every now and then nothing hard just like pot and that kinda stuff,So i got to know her pretty well she would basicly talk to me constintly every day all day text messaging me,My friend who i had been friends with for 2 years was kind've intrested in her was also getting to know her but he was actually a virgin thats never even kissed a girl,well we would basicly just drive around and she'd talk with me and we'd allways end up at her place in bed but just to have a nap...lol she'd cuddle up to me so tight and just lay there, when she'd be awake she'd make some sort of advances but since i thought she was a virgin i should try and make it a little bit more special for her,anywho she started dating my friend cause her friend was telling him that she likes him so much,but in reality just felt bad for him and thought he was nice,the whole time she was dating him, she'd be constintly talking to me on the phone,texting, msn e.t.c and still get me to hangout with her and she'd bring me in her bed still and give me massages and just cuddle up to me,eventually she ended up very pationatly kissing me, and we're about to have sex but i decided not to "very odd thing to do " lol because she was dating my friend even though i'd been madly in love with her since the second i layed eyes on her, so this continued for another week or so, then she dumped him and started hanging out with me everyday but a month in she said she didnt want a relationship, then eventually we started dating then a week later she went to mexico with her mom and sisters, which seems pretty innocent but apparently not,her sister met some mexican guy and they were "together" and he had a friend apparently and her sister decided to tell him that she was interested so im told that he kissed her and she pulled a way and didnt let him but he still managed to hold a kiss for 2 seconds so her excuse for this was she didn't know we were dating yet cause apparently i didnt ask her which i did clearly two times actually and she said yes but still felt bad even though "she didn't do it" he came on to her. lol oh wow so anyways after this sitsuation i find out that my lovley girlfriend had a pretty eventfull pass so apparently she had slept with about 10 people that i knew quite well and when being around them with would'nt mention a thing about it even if i asked her. but eventually she told me and i dont know it just felt like i was cheated it hurt so much, to have to look into these friends, or aquaintinces in the eye and think oh well thats great you @#$%&*ed my sluty girlfriend. when i met the cute innocent girl. so now we get in arguments frequently about how she had sex with all those people that i know pretty well. Which i think it should be understandable that it would bother me its human nature at least i think,but apparently according to her that it shouldn't bother me cause its in the past, but you learn alot about a person from there passed so it seems the chances are high that she'd cheat on me and she told me that she had NEVER said no to any guy that tried which is really wierd cause she is so shy and doesn't talk to anyone which scares me a little that shes been with around 10 + people. she has maybe 3-4 close friends and thats about it and they bairly even socialize together. Anyway, now shes extremly depressed and is on anti-depressents , she used to allways doing sexual favors for me , head ,massages e.t.c and we'd have sex at least a minimum of 4 times a day and then a few favors both ways, now she doesnt seem to want to do any favors and sex just isnt as passionate just lifles she still says i love you all the time and kisses me and always wants to hold my hand and wants to be around me all the time but it just seems to be like the spark is gone. like something is missing , i have caught her talking to people that shes had sex with, and replying and having conversations with ex boyfriends while they tried to make fun of me she didn't even really defend me, i found a bunch of letters and little things from previous relationships, but she said she didn't even know she had them still, even though i watched her put them in a box infront of me at the start of our relationship and said she wanted to burn them but it never happend. and when she describes how she wants me to look or whatever like a hair cut or clothing or a tattoo it just fits the discriptions of previous people which kind've scares me alot too. but i dont know guys im just rambling on and on, anyone have some insight on if you think shes still seeing them or new people or is still interested in them, or is it just because she is suffering from depresion and or the side effects from the pills ? anything would be helpful.well, it sounds like she didn't do anything wrong when she had a chance in mexico. and as for 10+ ppl in the past, you cant hold that against her, if it was before you all went out, or while you were taking a break or whatev. havent you had past flings? But if she NEVER says no to a guy, thats something you might want to take into consideration... does it mean she would never turn down a guy if he wants sex? a blowjob? even while she's dating someone?... just talk it out. you have every right to question her a little, and if she starts to cry, argue about it, try to turn the tables on you for asking, or act defensive, ask her how she would feel if she was in your place...
well i dont know if my girlfriend is cheating but i wanna say that she is doing things that she isn't suppsoe to be doing when in a relationship. she was dancing with this guy on her homecoming dance, and she asked me if it was okay for her to date other guys.... i need help. what should i do.Trust me kiddo, take it from someone who's been through it. Dump her asap. Unless you want an open relationship and you get to date or be with other girls... Then break up with her. By telling you she wants to date another she's basically saying that she doesn't want you... But is keeping you around till something better comes by, the fact that over the course of a relationship that someone by chance may start hitting on her is bad enough, but normal. But the fact that she's solliciting guys to do as mentioned above, well, that's effed up.
I dearly loved a girl and still do, we have been together for nearly 2years and just about 2weeks ago, I found out she was in movies with a guy who came all the way from Canada, i caught her red handedly. That same day she lied to me saying she was going to her aunts place but rather she went to meet this guy. After i caught her she started crying n saying she made a mistake and that this guy was just a friend whereas she used to chat wid him on MSN n Facebook. She also agreed that she meet her couple of times since the guy has landed in my country. A week later she closes all her e-mail accounts but opens a gmail account and e-mailing to guy in OZ saying she has closed her accounts and will advise further wen i open i new account. Wen i confronted her she said this guy was my dads dream and that this guy wanted 2 marry him. Wen i asked y u e-mailed hime. She said mum told me 2 do so.She has made my life very difficult, eventhough I love her but she has lost my trust. She said she has realized her mistaked n she wants a new life wid me as she said she loves me. She also proposed 2 marry me!... Well life isnt the same as it used to be, we were so happy but i had a problem of my own, that was drinking late nights n stuff. I will be living this City in 3weeks n going far from her, but thinking abt all this aches me....Pls someone tell me wat to do?A.S.Bro once a cheat always a cheat...I no it will be hard, but trust me she has evil in her n has shown she can do this again..Go drink n party buddy..n keep ur distance, its hard 2 trust girls these days..They are all effd up...If she wud have LOVED u she y'd she do this? Go get a break bro...Just move forward and also she will coz it wudnt take much of her time to look 4 another guy....Or else u regret later!Believe me girls ae like this, they will show that they care for you and if you hurt them they will sumhow revenge from u...If she wud have lovd u she wudnt be chatiing on te net and meeting a guy secretly....The whole picture is infront of u and u still wana go down the pothole.....Run buddy, as far as u can, she is an evil that will haunt u forever...!Women cheat because of a deeper reason usually... I wouldn't marry her if you have doubts about her faithfulness to you. But I wouldn't "RUN" either, if you love her, then you should at least weigh your options, talk it over, maybe even tell her about your doubts, you have every right to question her a little before you agree to get married... and also, try to figure out what made her cheat in the past, find out by just talking w/ her and saying you understand, and provide sympathy so she'll tell you her honest reasons and thoughts about it...
I recently came to find out that my gf has been talking to her ex (who is trying to get back with her) behind my back. When I confronted her about this she acted as if there is nothing wrong with her talking to her ex and that I was overreacting. I honestly don't have a problem with them getting together now and again, but my worry comes from the fact that she was keeping it from me and that she has cheated on others in the past. Let me get your opinions. Do I have something to worry about?I would spy on her a little, id say that you're ok with her going to meet him, and try to find out where they're going to meet, without sounding obvious... and then tell her you'll be somewhere (thats believable, ie... your going to something out of town for work or whatev), and then watch them, see if they go back to his place, or a motel or something, be patient and bring binoculars...
"Once a slut, always a slut." holds true in most cases. Been there, seen it, to many times. I hate people without morals, they diserve nothing because they waste everything. Including your heart. Shame on them.
my girlfriend has cheated on me once before. early in her life she was raped and beat constantly by an old boyfriend. she has PTSD and still suffers flashbacks every now and then. she says she cheated on me cuz she needs reassurance from guys that she isnt worthless and that she is loved. she promises never to do it to me again. that was 2 months ago and sometimes its hard to trust her cuz she always talks and flirts with other guys. i want to trust her really badly i still love her. when we met she was dating a guy and cheated on him with me. she broke up with him a couple days later to be with me. so i know that she has cheated previously. i dont believe once a slut always a slut. right now tho she says she needs a break and needs to discover herself without me as an influence. i am giving her, her wish. she says she will be true to me til we get back together and she promises that we aren't over. i would just like some advice on wheather i should take her back or just try to move on from here and forget about her. she says im controlling and manipulative. i dont see how im manipulative but i have been a bit controlling when it comes to her talking to other guys. i just get scared. am i wrong? i hate that i hurt her like this. sometimes i just want to start talking to girls who i know like me just to make her a little jelous, but i have no intention of ever cheating on her or leaving her for someone else. i just need some advice if there is any to be given on the matter. thanks it would be much appreciated.I'm not an expert & you have to figure out what to do on your own, but I will tell you that I have been in your situation with an old GF filting with guys & who was molested as a young teen as well. I doubt that she will be what your looking for as it sounds like you need a mature relationship & she doesn't. Why not think about this as an opprtunity to do some discovering of what love is on your own. The pain is much worse the more you invest. There is nothing worse than to witness your GF flirt in front of you. I will say that is a complete lack of consideration for your feelings. Is that what you really want?? Sometimes you never stop asking if she was true in that one time or in that other time & nobody should live with that, it's better to be alone than to live with that constant weight. She should care about you as much as you care about her if that is important to you. Maybe you could take this opportunity to discover Yourself!! Now down the road, I always say thank God I didn't get married to that girlfriend...&.... so does my family......You've asked for advice and have gotten an extremely thoughtful response from the guy before me. I would encourage you to make the "break" or "time off" a permanent condition of this relationship. It's a great oppurtunity for u get out of this situation. She, on the other hand, will be using this as an oppurtunity to have her cake and eat it too. You've already accepted her reasons for cheating once before as a justificaton. It's bad that she was mistreated when she was younger. The truth is that there's no acceptable explanation for someone cheating on you. No excuse makes it ok. The only time you should consider moving forward with the relationship is if the cheater assumes full responsibility for what they did and sincerely decides to never do it again. Even with that in mind there's still a good chance it will happen again. To adress the accusations of u being manipulative, I'll say I've not detected any evidence of that in your attitude as a writer. It seems almost manipulative of her to accuse you of such, as she tries to restructure your relationship into something that's very unfair to you. She's trying to mold it into the most convenient thing for her with no consideration of the pain it causes you. How can u even consider investing any more of your time or feelings into a person and relationship that costs so much and yields no real gains. Just the fact that you take other peoples feelings, and your own feelings, into consideration, you deserve to be in a good relationship. Remember this is ur life and ur the one who has to live it! Your the one who's gonna be satisfied or disatified with what you've done in life. So take control and make your own decisions. Good luck broi went through the same thing. i was just about to break up with her because of how freaking retarded she would be. Talking to other guys constantly. Ditching me now and then for her 'best friend' garrett. go to shows with guys and not invite me at all. talk to a guy on the phone for 3 hours while im trying to call her and say goodnight...little stuff on the side as well. its bull$%&*@$%&. she broke up with me on thanksgiving of all days and basically told me to f off. for what reason? ill never know. but i moved on and found a girl who i just know loves me and would never cheat me or anything of the sort. everyone always telling you to do what YOU think is right...in reality, you DO need advice from someone other than that. If it were me, id cut it loose. i couldnt stand the thought of my girlfriend cheating on me. its very disturbing. taking a break? relationships should NEVER take a damn break, bro. Relationships are supposed to be dedicated or non existent. you should take your pick. wake up and smell the roses, she COULD be cheating on you right now, during her 'break.' thats complete bull$%&*@$%&. maybe a day you say "hey, i want to go hang out with my GUY friends, you can go hang out with your GIRL friends." They shouldnt be hanging out with guys without you there EVER and if you ARE there, DONT let them flirt! if they say "babey, im not flirting" just tell her "you ARE flirting so please stop." you shouldnt be in a relationship unless you have that gut feeling, that you KNOW she would never do that. and make sure you are trustworthy as well. then, you wont have to worry bout anything between you two and everyones happy! :D sorry if i was harsh, but i need to get it out the way i feel and the way it is. Your girlfriend sounds like the same tramp i went out with. if you dont dump her, she WILL dump you. or maybe take a loooong break. haha
I need help bad!I don't know how to take this story my wife just told me. During flirt talking over cocktails, the topic of old lovers came up. This lead to a story of when we got in a fight 7 years ago, she went back home to visit family saying she wanted to end our 5 year marriage ( she has always said since that she only wanted me to chase after her & "rescue her." ) While in town she stayed the night with her old roommate & her husband, who was also a roommate at the same time as her friends boyfriend. While there this time, he came to her bed while she was sleeping in pajamas with shorts. He crawled under the covers & started to kiss her face & neck all over while he touched her all over her legs. He said "cmon, doesn't it feel like old times?" She then tells him to go back to his bed & to his wife, but he continues to kiss her & beg. The story starts to change up in the details from there. She would say something like he was sticking his hard on against her, then wouldn't say where, then say he didn't jam it against her at all, then admit that he humanly had to have a hard on & it would of jammed against her if he was kissing & fondling her.Now,... she says a couple of things. One is that he didn't touch the inside of her thigh or her breasts, only rubbed her all over everywhere else. Also, that she didn't kiss him back, only let him kiss her all over. Of course she insists that he never @#$%&*ed her, not even touching her $%&@%&* or no oral sex ever happened. And, lastly, that she always repeatedly said in a not bothered type tone, " No... go back to bed, go back to your girlfriend/wife."It was an ongoing thing that they had done a number of times. She let him kiss her all over her face with her only casually saying go back to your bed, letting him continue. He seemed to be able to get away with this for enough time to carry all this touching & kissing out & that is what is bothering me so much!!!She never really stopped him!!!! The history before we were married doesn't bother me, but being a married woman even during the fight & letting the same ritual & the " does this feel like old times" $%&*@$%& happen all over again & no scolding him or getting out of bed... does bother me BAD. She says "nothing happened" & " I never kissed him back" & that it should not be a big deal, nothing was wrong with what happened because she told him to leave without touching him or kissing him back.Even if she didn't do anything, just letting him kiss, lick & touch her is cheating!!! I can't believe my ears!! She somehow thinks it's OK. Am I crazy??? Am I being too jealous??? Personally I don't believe $%&*@$%&!!I had to tell her I was OK with it & that it was maybe a little exciting to hear so I could pump her for true details as much as I could without her getting defensive. My wife is a somewhat deeply religious person who has never lied to me before, but has hidden/lost credit card statements that were in her name & has built up debt in the $25,000 range, all of which is now corrected now & she has only a weekly allowance. I have always trusted her ( That why I married her !), except for money, but now?????Please help with some thoughts, I have no one else to talk to about this without destroying the marriage,ThanksBuy a baseball bat from walmart for about $7.38 + tax and milk for about $3.50 a gallon, find that guy who's flirting and break his skull open, then hide his body in the cemetery. Then go home and tell your wife that you've got back from shopping for milk.
Beware that some of these signs are limited to one's society or culture. The suspicious behavior of men or women can be totally different in another cultural setting, and thus one could be totally wrong to suspect or not suspect something. Good pointers, though. ~mogama~
hello, am 23. well i dont kno if my girlfriend is cheating on me but am suspiciousi was her first love (i disvirgin her) and things has been going on well btw us since 2 years . i.e we'v being there for each other. we both came from a very discipline background..And we both know our families..We had four month strike in my school, then i decided to find a job doin outside town instead of staying in the house doin nothing..During dat time, i lost ma phone but i alwayz call her every night... I was only away for one and half month.Then wen we resumed, we continue the relationship, we had sex.. but i notice the sudden changes in her character, like the way she talk to me (no respect), her boldness, her dressing . she doesnt call me often like before...So when i confronted her about this, she'l alway calm me down and told me not to worry dat we are getting married, dat nothing was wrong.Though i never see a guy with her, but she once told me a guy tried to tease her by dropping 20,000 (nigerian naira) to her acc, i av never given her such an amount.she tried to take it personal any time i mention the guy name in our conversation.Now its gotten to a stage she wouldnt pick ma call on time and she once told me aggresively not to call in the midnite again that i give her headache but latter she denied.. And she swear to me she has never date or had sex with any guy except me.Now am confused, and i dont trust her, but i love her. I dont know wot to doif you dont trust her then there is nothing there. you cant have a relationship without trust. you will drive yourself crazy with these questions. get out man get out. you have nothing if you dont trust her. the feelings will stay this isnt gonna be painless, but you cant TRUST her
Ok so here's my story and let's see of you guys can help decide...I've been with my girl for about 7 years now and we areboth 21... Like any relationship we have our arguements an stuff but we always managa to work them out... I am her first relationship she ever had and are planning our future togethe like moving out together and hopefuly a wedding... Now I've cheated in the past and sheforgave me but now I start seeing her act diffrent towards me... She goes out with herfriends more often and we rarely hang out as much as weused to... Sex in the otherhand is still great and nothin has changed about it and neither has her appearance or any of the other signs stated here... It's just that now she has become more rude towards me an she isn't as affectionate as she was before... There's times when she goes out and I'm fine with it but there is also times when she does and I have have this gut feeling that doesn't even let me sleep.... everytime I ask her if she's doing something behind my back she gets real angry and tells me that how can I think of her that way and that it makes her feel like $%&*@$%& and that I dont trust her...now she herself is very jealous and I really don't mind her being that way but, she says that I'm overprotective... There was a time when wesplit for a while but during that time, I caught her lying to me when shesaid that she was home and to stopcalling her cuz she was sleeping, later I found out that she had gone to a club with her gay friends... Even when I told her that I knew she still denied it until her brother was the one that admitted in front of her face that she was not home.... Lately things have calm down and we arespending time together but it's just the gut feeling that hits me every once in a while that drives me crazy... The thing now is that I wanna propose to her but if I ever findout she cheated I don't think I can ever forgive her... I love this girl to death and will do anything for her but I just don't wanna be laughed at behind my back when I'm willing to sacrifice everything for herdont propose til you know you can trust her with your feelings otherwise you could be setting yourself up for the hurt. it will drive you insaneShe forgives you for cheating but you can't reciprocate? Don't you think she felt like a fool when she found out about your infidelity? You're pretty lucky to still have her around in my opinion. Maybe your thoughts of her cheating resulted in you cheating on her. You know you're capable of it so she is too, right? She may have forgiven you but it's not as if it never happened. In a way maybe she's trying to get back at you and under your skin by being sneaky and secretive. Maybe she's not cheating but trying to make you think so. Perhaps she just needs to get the vengence out of her system for a little while, perhaps her vegence will overshadow and kill your relationship. You have to earn her trust back. That's my guess, anyways. I don't doubt your relationship can bounce back but it will be tough. The level playing field disappears when a person cheats. Trust is broken and paranoia sets in. You say you have a "gut feeling" and you know what they say about those....
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