Dealing With The Death of A Loved One
Posted: Monday, October 23, 2006
By Laura Trahan
My mother is in the hospital right now June 3,2008. She had double bypass surgery 2or3 days ago and things are still very ify. My problom is i have very bad anxity and i havent even seen her and if i could my mom has tubes in her and is under alot of meds. But i fear she won't make it and i didn't see her for that last time even though people say she doesn't look well. thank you for you story i know im going to feel the same way. I'am already doing alot of the things you said try not to do. My names Jason and my lovely mothers name is Wendy White. Please pray for her!Hello Jason, GOD bless your mom and God give you the strenght.
This article was very helpful. Both of my parents have died in the last month. The pain and sorrow come to me in waves. I have always been very vocal about my feelings but have found it hard to talk about my parents. I am not a very friend intensive person. I share my feelings with my family primarily and I know this is not right. My parents were very private people. I have been preparing myself for this day, but, you are never ready. I love my parents and know that they are together again.Aonymous-I can't imagine losing both parents. My thoughts are with you during this time.
I feel like that's me in that article. My mom was my everything! I am 23 years old and she passed away July 6th, 2008 and the year before that in June of '07 my sister whom I was closest to died! My mom died of a brain tumor that was just out of the blue! None of us knew she had it! She was in the hospital in April for two or three weeks then since I was living with her I took her home and I took care of her up to the end! I had to watch her lose her strength, her pride, and her will to live! Then when she got blood clots in her lungs I had to put the oxygen over her nose so she could breath! i am the youngest in my family! I have 4 older brothers and two sisters well one now. And it has hit me the hardest! I dont show emotions is what someone told me and I am trying to pull myself out of this self destruction phase that I've been in since her death! I've actually gotten better cause of my boyfriend and my best friend! They have been with me and stayed with me! I still dont cry in front of people and probably never will but I do cry at times!
My mom died at the age of 57 on July 9, 2006. I was 24. She was my best friend I called her a hundred times a day. She was the kindest person I ever knew. I miss her everyday, every moment of everyday. She had a massive heart attack but was never sick at all. I was 6 months pregnant and her sister had died 8 months before her. My aunt was like my second mother. Now me and my cousins are without our moms and second moms. we are all like brothers and sisters rather than cousins. I still cry for her all the time. I still call and listen to her voicemail we all do. I was the closest to her and I hate not having her here for birthday parties and to see my son be born, who looks just like her. They say time heals the pain but for me time has done nothing.
I am 13 and I just lost my grandpa a day ago. He had liver and pancreas cancer all at the same time. I was with him for a month or so watching him waste away slowly it was horrible. He was asleep when he died but he still sounded like he was in pain. He was around the age 60. It was so hard watching him fade away slowly.I can't imagine having to go through watching him die slowly! I am sorry for your loss!
Thank you for writing this article, i just lost a very dear friend of mine i looked up to like a older brother. we talked everyday and he always had a way of making sure i was in a great mood. he was the most inspiring person i knew. he was always doing things literally everyday many people have never tried. like rock or mountain climbing, white water rafting, surfing, you name it. he always lived life to the fullest and was a man of God. every sunday after he taught a childrens sunday school at church hed go play the piano at a nursing home. he was a person unlike you could possibly imgine. but rock climbing was his favorite hobby, but he would never use ropes. he wanted it all skill. and he was good at it, he traveled all over the world to take 3rd place in huge competitions. then yesterday, he went for a climb with his friend and slipped. he fell 100 ft and is now walking with God. i havnt been able to stop grieving at all, i feel like im expecting to hear from him any minute. Id give anything to talk to him just one more time. but for now i have to cope with the pain i guess till i get to see him again someday.. again thank you for the article..Ashley-He sounds like an amazing man! I will be praying for you! I am so sorry for your loss!
God bless you Laura for the inspirational words of comfort to me. I just lost my nephew to a senseless act, and I was having a hard time dealing with it. So I google for help and clicked on tho you website, and basically gave me confirmation to a write I did on him for the service, and it was eqivalent to the write. So I thank God first for you and than I thank you for the inspiration, and may God continue use your experienced comfort, to help others.
please get more stories like this one so that I canread them. Thank you. Annonymous
Laura Trahan is married to an awesome, amazing, wonderful, etc. etc. man and has two beautiful kids. She has just recently woke up and started two new blogs http://lauratrahan.wordpress.com and http://tomballgtmom.wordpress.com. Feel free to visit anytime.
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